There's a situation that happened at my kid's high school yesterday that has me feeling rather ranty. It makes me wonder what happened to compassion and empathy. It makes me pissed, to be quite blunt.
Yesterday was Halloween. The local high school students were allowed to wear costumes to school. One particular kid wore a shirt covered in fake blood and carried a baseball bat with fake blood on it. That was his costume.
Another kid in school had a problem with that costume. I'm going to call him Jay. Jay's older brother is in jail for at least 25 years. When Jay's brother was about 14 and still in middle school, (with my daughter) he got into a fight with another boy. They decided to meet up in the woods later that day. Jay's brother brought a baseball bat. He hit the other boy with the bat. The boy died. Jay's brother is serving time in prison for murder.
When Jay went to school yesterday morning and saw this kid's costume, he immediately thought of his brother. Of course, it made him very emotional; upset, hurt, and angry. What his brother did is not his fault; but he has to live with the aftermath too. In turmoil, he went to his teacher and asked him if he would tell the student that he couldn't wear that costume; Jay just couldn't bear it, it was tearing him apart. The teacher said no, I won't tell him that. Jay broke down and told the teacher the story of his brother, and asked him 'Can you at least tell him to stop carrying the bat around?' 'No' said the teacher.
No. The teacher would not ask the other student to stop carrying around school a baseball bat with fake blood all over it that was emotionally tormenting another student. Apparently the kid's right to dress in whatever Halloween costume he wanted to was more important than Jay's emotional well being, his feeling of safety and comfort at school.
Now, something that you should know about this school: they confiscated a sweatshirt from an 11th grade girl that said 'Twerk Team Captain' because they said it was inappropriate.
Inappropriate. Twerking is inappropriate. Even mentioning it is inappropriate. But wearing a costume of a person covered in blood with a bloody baseball bat is not inappropriate?? For school?! How can that be? Especially when it is DIRECTLY hurting another child!
After class Jay went to the principal. Asked him the same thing, 'Can you make that kid stop wearing that costume?' 'No' said the principal. So again, Jay had to spill his guts, his family secrets, his pain.
'I see', said the principal. And he made the other student TAKE OFF THE COSTUME.
Thank you, Mr. Prinicpal. Thank you for having an ounce of compassion that was not demonstrated by the teacher.
We are a small community here, and we need to take care of each other. And when a kid works up the courage (or is upset enough) to talk to a teacher about a fellow student upsetting him to the point he can't focus in class, we need to act.
Screw the Halloween costume. Seriously, is it more important than another child's mental health?? Really? I don't think so.
I know I deviated from the funny guys, but I couldn't help it. This has been eating at me. Thanks for letting me rant <3 Comments, thoughts and opinions are welcome.