You guys have got to read this post from Tracy over at Momaical . It's a beautiful letter written to a young lady dealing with mean girl drama at school. Mean Girls Suck
Anyone been there? One of my kiddos is going through that right now, not too too bad, but still somebody running their mouth. She's such a sweetheart that would do anything for anybody and it kills me to know that somebody is bad mouthing her, making up things that aren't true to turn other kids against her. Why? Are you that unhappy about with yourself that this is the only way you can feel better? By making others miserable? Ugh. This girl used to be friends with my daughter in elementary school. Now she spends her time talking smack about other kids and deciding who is going to be one of the 'popular' kids. Who made her the popularity judge? My daughter has a good head on her shoulders, and mostly just rolls her eyes at this nonsense and says Whatever. But I know it hurts. I try to reassure her that she is a wonderful person, and smart and beautiful, and a great friend. I know this other girl has issues of her own that she is clearly dealing with by spreading the hurt. But it makes me angry. Pissed. I want to punch a 13 year old girl. Would I do it? No. Would that solve anything? No. But is that my natural mama bear instinct when somebody is messing with one of my cubs? Hell yes.
I tell her that it gets better, that once you're out of school you don't have to deal with that drama anymore. Then I think of all the crap that goes on between moms now a days, the judgmental, my way is better than your way and you are WRONG and BAD, kind of crap. ~Sigh. Why do we do that to each other?? Are we no better than middle school girls?
Tracy's letter is beautifully written, and I think I'd like to print it out and keep it for my daughters. And maybe myself, too.